Mistakes...

People think mistakes are a bad thing...not necessarily true. I'm finding out that when I make mistakes I remember more. I remember when to correct the situation so it doesn't happen again. Well, because life doesn't always allow repeats, I could be stuck remembering a bad situation. Mistakes give me a chance to make amends and start over. They give you a chance to be a better you.

Remember the following:

1) It's a mistake---you will get over it and move on.
2) Everyone makes mistakes--you are not the first person this has happened to
3) This mistake can make you better

I didn't have an older sister/brother to help me find my way, so I felt like I've made more than the average number of mistakes in my life. With those mistakes, I'm a better lady and example for the younger generation. If you feel like you've made too many mistakes, don't fret. Never fret--too many frown lines. Just remember there is another minute, another hour and even another day to make the situation better and live your best possible life yet. Just consider what I'm saying...

What's Next...Hmmmm..

So...I'm at home cooking and thinking about what's next for me. I'm excited about what God has in store, but also trying to position myself so that He can use me for greater good. As I work, write, edit and perform, I  learn so much more about me. Who I really am--and I love her. She's great! :) I'm not perfect, but God is and He has me under control.

This weekend I had the gracious opportunity to be part of the play, The Battle Is Not Yours. I wrote the spoken word pieces for it. I was told that it was awesome! I also learned that 31 people got saved at the production! More than the spoken word, 31 souls found there way to Christ! When the cast was up on the stage singing the final song, people just kept coming for the Lord. I was extremely overjoyed. There I was worried (butterflies all in my stomach!) about not remembering my lines, and the Lord MOVED!!! There was a true act of God going on. At that point, everything else seemed obsolete.

When God moves, Amen. I say when God moves, Amen. There are storms, there is peace. When God moves, Amen. It stirs my soul to know that so many people came to Christ at the play. The play also allowed me to see other avenues I can be a blessing and use what He gave me.

Too much more to come...

Being Left Out is NEVER Fun...

As an only child, I was always left out: events, parties, some of everything. I felt like I wasn't wanted. As an adult with no children, some of the same is happening, but there is a strong difference...God is with me. I am never alone. People may leave me out of parties and such but God will always be by my side.

Some may say "Yeah, that's what the lonely say to make themselves feel better. So sad." It's only sad if you truly believe you are lonely. Oh of course, I have great friends and many true friends. But of course there are others that disguise themselves as friends: true, thick-or-thin, virtues who are with you no matter what.

And remember to be there for the true blue virtues! Yes, that's a must. Remembering them as they remember you keeps the circle of friendship going and in tact. When in doubt, ask God who's true and who isn't. When you are unsure of the future, pray and talk to God just as I speak to you. Tough seasons call for seasoning and grace. You may ask "seasoning??? Bea what are you talking about???" Glad you asked. The seasoning are the lessons you have learned and are learning about yourself and life that carry you through the next situation. Ever heard of an old person being part of the "seasoned generation"? This is a person who has been through the fire and flood--but also lived to tell about it.

Being left out gives you great opportunity to season your life with great to think about what God is doing in your life, what He's done, and why He's set you aside for a time such as this. If you feel left out, you're not. He's getting you ready for something greater...Selah.

Being Real...

Hey everyone,

Why is it hard to be yourself? When you say "I want to be married" or "I want a date", there is always someone else to say "Be content where you are". What happened to voicing your opinion and just being you? It's human to want to vent, be angry, say what you feel, be disappointed, whatever. What's not natural or scary even is when you are content in those states--the negative states. Say what you feel, exhale, and let go...Say what you feel, exhale, and let go...Say what you feel, exhale, and let go...

For those of you who say be content, fully listen to the person. It could be a cry for help. This person could need prayer, prayer, and more prayer. Now if the person begins to bring you down, run! Some folks want to be a leach and latch on wherever they can to drain you until they feel better. Be careful of these individuals....

Remember to do the things that make you happy. Don't know? Explore, try new things, but whatever you do--find out! No person, thing or person (yes, I said person twice) can make you happy. Only you can make you happy. Take for instance this blog, writing gives me one of the greatest joys ever! I can write about anything, create a new character for my book, release negative energy without hurting anyone--it's great! Having trouble? Ask God...Unsure? Ask God...Feel like you're wondering? Ask God...

To Complain or To Compliment?

I could sit here and and wittle my life away with negative endings and disgust. I choose the other side of the coin: to be ultimately grateful. Too much is going on in this world not to recognize love, grace, respect and honor from God and those He favors. I call my blog He Speaks because He does speak to me and I choose to share hoping to enlighten you.

Earlier today I helped cater a Pastor's anniversary for about 40 people. The food was good, the entertainment was good, and then I got tired--I mean majorly tired. My legs didn't get heavy, but the top of my feet just wouldn't bend anymore so I could move forward. It was painful to do so. My ankles felt like "open doors" to this pain. As crazy as it was, I kept going. I felt like I had to. A room full of people to help--and all who could were doing so--and I felt like I had to keep going. My arms and shoulders still have life, but are not without pain either. So the question is do I complain or compliment?

I could complain about the pain or I could see myself as loved by God for giving me life enough in my legs to feed for such a time as this (or what tonight's event). I choose to compliment: I want to honor God by my giving. I didn't have a gift for the Pastor, but I choose to give my time and heart without complaining. He greatly received it. My heart smiled.

Notice there is a significant letter that helps to create each word: the letter "L". If you look deeper, the "L" will come to mean "love". Why? If love truly resides in your heart, nothing will stop you from keeping a commitment. I wanted to keep my commitment to God so my legs lead the way and the rest of me followed. At the end of the night, my human body is sore but my spirit is overjoyed and filled. What did you do today with your "L"? What difference did you do? Selah.

Until--I had to speak on this

People,

The word "until" really bothers me. We praise Him, the Almighty, "until". We do this "until". We do that "until". Until what? What happened to praising God because He is God? What happened to being in His kingdom uplifting His worth? As people we have to do better. Yes, I'm guilty of it as well. I've got to do better. I want to be blessed and to be a blessing continuously not just because I got a gift or a need was met. 

What happened to the "what's next?" kind of attitude. What's next that we can do for God? What's next that will lift up the Kingdom? What's next that He has in store for us? What's next, Jesus?

Beaingu.com

My writing is really taking off! I'm excited about this journey that God has me on. I'm making progress, mistakes, and learning as well. It's great. If you haven't been to my new web site, please visit www.beaingu.com. You'll be pleased. I've introduced different writings such as wedding vows, poetry, and will introduce short stories and other writings later.

You have to be true to your self: be you. My writing allows me to be me; I have a voice--it just uses a pen.
Remember to exhale the day's aggravations, inhale necessary relief, and make today better than ever.

New Life, New Adventures

Life can present all types of twists and turns and it's up to us in how we deal with them that make us who we are.  I was laid off about a month ago and the process to look for another job (and I do mean job as the word "career" does not exist anymore) can be testing. You look, apply, interview, wait, and wait...and wait. Finally, your moment of truth arrives and, ta-dah!, you're not hired! You have to wonder why: was it really experience (my experience was listed on my resume before I was brought in for the interview), did you just need a certain amount of people to interview, or (wait for it...) did you actually believe in me??? Hmmm...one has to wonder. No matter why you were brought in, use the interview to improve your interview skills and professionalism. Keep your integrity: you may want to lie on your resume or directly to the interviewer--avoid these negative actions. They result in nothing but professional destruction. Ask yourself: am I presenting myself in a way that will  make employers want to hire me? In my profession, what skills and computer programs do I need to promote my ideas and advancements I've found? Look within (yourself) to begin (your new adventure).

Yes, you can be upset that you're position is no more or you can see this time as a new opportunity. You get to have lunch when you want, submit resumes any time of the day, and can have naps on the deck. On your new "stay-cation" remember to pray: just because you're not essentially working doesn't mean that God isn't or has left your side. Relaxing is good but keep it in moderation. Keep pushing for the top with research in advancements in your field. Keep in touch with professional organizations (learn, grow, develop!). Notice the word "keep" is used in the last two sentences--don't let go of  who you are professionally because there seems to be no work.

Prayer is an amazing tool. It's not brought up often in the workplace but its one of the best tools available. The  profession doesn't matter, the person doesn't matter. All that matters is the relationship one has with the Lord. Ask yourself: what am I doing to promote my relationship with Him? Yes, I attend service sometimes and pay my tithes but am I fasting and giving enough of my time for the one who gave His all for me? Am I representing myself to the fullest? Sometimes we can be so dearly wrapped up in making an impression on the boss that we forget who really controls us. We have free will--yes, but it's up to us to KEEP our relationship with Him just as we would our professional contacts, our business deals, our regular lives.

What will you do with the "new adventure"? Will you move forward with prayer, fasting, research and relationship? Will you fulfill your dream of a life long "stay-cation for your flesh's satisfaction? The choice and decision is literally yours...

Remember who's watching...

Just as children watch their parents, employees watch their managers/directors/owners. More often than not, they're making mistakes of ignoring the individuals that help make them great. Instead of giving a pat on the back, the person is given a closed door, the dial tone/voice mail when trying to contact the manager, or just ignored all together. It hurts to be ignored and felt as if you're nothing. I've felt this pain time and time again by various managers who've said nothing when answers were needed. When you, the employee, try to handle the situation with a little initiative and drive, you're told you were wrong to do so and to stop, often with a disapproving look. Am I correct? Did you (or do you still) want to dig a hole and crawl in it as your co-workers stare without giving any help? 

Instead of resorting to looking for another job (as the pain will only follow you), think what you would do if you were manager. How would you handle the situation? How would you treat that employee? How could you, as manager, make this situation a positive one? First, take a deep breath and let the anguish go. Yes, it's humiliating but if you won every battle--how helpful would you be to someone else? How would you grow as a person? Remember both of you, as the employee and your manager, are humans. Don't hate this person--yes, it's hard not to--but try. Both of your are flesh and one day you will both die and nothing will be left but dust. So just let the hurt (or potential hate, depending on your anger level) go. Think and even write down what you'd do different for the company and that employee if the roles were reversed. Keep this information in a safe notebook and review it from time to time. Add to it as needed. 

Remember to pray. Always keep God first. This will be your lifeline to the world as you embark on various headaches, heartaches, troubles and pains in this life. Focus on how you can work with God to make the situation better for all involved, now and in the future. Keep the notebook so when you become manager, and you will, you can and will remember the steps you took to get there and help someone else get ahead. Selah. 

New Year, New Wisom

Ok, so Happy New Year!! (confetti, cheering, happiness all around). Yes, I'm late but you're not forgotten. This new year brings new adventure and a new chance to be alive. The word "alive" has new meaning for me. It means that I live for me and understand who I am and the mistakes I've made. I'm determined to be happier, more honest and cautious about myself. I'm determined to love me and honor myself more. I think I forgot me and just left myself to the wayside last year. Does this mean I'll be more ignorant or selfish? Of course not, but there comes a time in a girl's life when she's got to do her.

I'm about to publish my first book and am looking forward to the book signing and hosting. It's going to be a great and divine time in my life. I've printed a chapter to move on to a chapter. Isn't that something? God has granted me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the sho'nuff wisdom to know the difference. Some receive wisdom and throw it away. Some receive wisdom and are unsure what to do with it and waste it. Some want wisdom and have no way of getting it. What will you do with what God has given you today? Think on it..