Forgiveness...such an ugly word when you don't want to forgive. It's hurtful, painful, like pulling off live skin. I want to forgive, but it's so hard. My heart doesn't really want to, but I know I have to. It's a must. I feel like that's really blocking my breakthrough. I can forget, but have I really forgiven those for what they've done to me? Some I have; unfortunately, there are some I have not. It burns physically deep and mentally this pain gives me headaches. Now, the question is: is it the pain and hurt that takes its toll physically on me--or is it the unforgiveness? Selfishly, I want to say the pain.

In today's society, to let people know that they've hurt you is almost an invitation to a 3pm afterschool fight. So, how do you let someone know how you feel; if you think you're feelings have been hurt and (here's the key) have them take you seriously??? Hmmm...food for thought (I talking a full plate here!) Very carefully: ask to speak to him/her privately and make your concerns know, honestly and not forcefully. Look the person in the eye and keep the dramatics at home. No need for that. Make sure that the hurting party doesn't have any questions and you end with an agreeable handshake (if not a friendly hug). Leave all hurt there at that meeting point; let not your heart be troubled.

Yeah, I know it's easier said than done: to leave it all there, but in order to move forward and no behind--you have to. Think about it...